Your Name 1. Personal Mission Statement - What do I stand for? What makes me unique? What difference will I make?
Everything flows from these words. Could not write too much here. The key is not to use generic words or phrases such as: I want to be happy” I want to help people” etc, What are the values you live by? Where does your uniqueness come from? Not how you do things, but why.
2. Right now, my longer term and ideal professional goal is
What is in your mind right now! If that statement is true, what are you doing to pursue that goal?
3. I will be a success when........
Yes, success can be a moving target. The never ending pursuit of "more" is not the answer. This is not a financial question, but what the totality of life satisfaction will look like.
4. Describe how "success" interferes with your current effort to be "happy".
When you pursue things that will impress others and not yourself, then cognitive dissonance occurs. The disconnect from what you want vs the expectations of others.
5. If fear were not the issue, what would I do this year?
Fear may be the real issue. Fear of failure. Fear of disappointment, of disappointing others. Fear of the unknown. A truthful answer here could shed light on what you have to be doing. Not just your work, but in your portfolio of commitments.
6. What is my action plan to become a better version of myself?
This is you the human being. Not competencies, skills, or abilities. Your expression of who you are--for example, your gratitude, kindness, compassion,. Your care for others. Your patience, and open mindedness. Your selflessness. Reducing the harm you do. Your support of what is good. Only you know where this work is needed. If you are coming up blank, you need to go deeper.
7. What is the most important story of how your ancestors sacrificed for you to be here today?
Do you know your history? How you got here? What your family and their descendants did to give you this chance? Find/research a story that helps you understand what drives you and your small part of the family tree.
8. What will be enough for me?
This is not a question about ambition or shooting for the stars. This is about the capacity of loving what you have versus always wanting more. Knowing what is enough does not mean you are not driven. It means you are not insatiable.
9. If I knew I was going to die next month, what would I do differently? What am I waiting for?
You will die. Regrettably no one knows the timetable. Time is short and limited. How do we make the most of the time we have? Leaving few if any regrets. You will not come this way again, so why wait for the perfect moment? Why procrastinate what can be done now?
10. How is my life “out of balance” right now? What change would give me more peace in my life?
Balance is a state of mind. And perfect balance is unachievable. Therefore, we all are all out of balance. You have a specific source of pain for your lack of balance. What can you re-balance to give your life more satisfaction?
11.What is driving my ambition? Money? Status? Impact? What matters most and why?
Whatever it is, declare it and make it part of your strategy, Don't pretend to want something else. Be honest with yourself and with your plans.
12. How will I pay my privilege forward? How will I leverage the sacrifices my ancestors made for me to be here?
Really taking inventory for the blessings, good fortune and sheer luck which give you choices and chances, is crucial for authentic humility. And acknowledging the extraordinary sacrifices of those who paved the way. Grounded in that gratitude, what will you do to help those behind you?
13. What are the obstacles/excuses preventing me from advancing my life and/or career?
We have to take responsibility for what is holding us back, even if we did not cause it. We say we are problem solvers and that we like challenges. Identify these obstacles and excuses and let’s get going.
14. Describe a time when you felt the need to inflate yourself, be more than you are--why weren't you enough?
Ego is your greatest enemy. Giving others the impression you are more important than you are is a temporary high that ends with a crash. Like a bad kiting scheme you over toot your own horn until you blow it. Embrace where you are and who you are. Forget about what others think. And those that care, blow them off.
15. What is my greatest professional weakness or fear? Something that de-motivates me.
Like #5, honesty is vital. What generates fear and de-energizes you. Besides public speaking!:) What do you have to work on to be more successful, effective and perhaps most important, reach your goal in #2 or #3.
16. What have I always wanted to do, but have not done yet?
Things you want to do that are left undone become regrets. Something important to you. Something that if you did not do it you would be incomplete as a person. Perhaps a childhood dream. This is not part of a bucket list. This is personal expression of you!
17. I wish my family/best friends knew (this about me)?
For whatever reason, we don't reveal what we want, want to be, to some of the people we are closest to. What should everyone know about your secret aspirations and/or super powers?
18. What do I do that engages me where time is irrelevant? And how much time do I devote to it?
This is a “flow” question. An indicator of things you love to do. You derive a type of joy from this. Provides insights into what makes you tick. Could be the process. Could be for fun. Could be the opposite of your work. If you could do it more you would. How do you build in more time for this activity?
19. What topic could you give a 45 minute lecture about? What does that reveal about you?
Where is your depth of knowledge, curiosity and passion? What can you talk about that engages you and your audience for at least 45 minutes?
20. What am I curious about? I would appreciate some help exploring/learning about these subjects.
Could be career paths, to hobbies. Or courses you did not take in college. Topics, ideas, or interests that you think about all of the time. Something to engage others in helping you scratch this itch.
21. Who do you know who lives a life you aspire to live? Who inspires you to be the best you can be? (not your mother)
Easy to forget all of the people who helped you get here. Think of a specific person or people who made sure you succeeded. Someone you modeled yourself after. Gave you special support, advice, mentoring and time. They would love to hear how you are doing. Your gratitude will be a great gift and you will be a major recipient.
22. With whom will I reconnect and/or strengthen my relationship? Who can I help?
We all have a relationship or two that bother us, even hold us back. We try to deny it exists or hope it goes away. Reach out to reconnect and take the higher road to reconciliation. Rescue yourself. Also think of someone you could assist and share your privilege.