Why do we have twice as many ears as mouths? Listening to the thoughts, ideas, and words that are articulated around you is an undervalued and under practiced skill. No way to hear things when your pie hole is wide open! 🙂
I breakfasted with one of my mentors this week and she said some profound things to me:
- Practice constructive over-hearing. Open your ears and pay attention and you will be informed in new ways.
- Needs are noisy! The needs in the community, the needs of your customers, the needs of your network are making noises, but can you hear them?
To summarize: Change what you are doing by listening! Change your trajectory by using your ears!
Everyone says they are good listeners. Actually we over-estimate almost all of our skills, except public speaking and math :) I was attending a training on listening, someone asked, "How do I know I am listening better?" The instructor said something I will never forget and that has changed the way I listen. She said, " Listen as if you have to report what you've heard to someone else." You know what she meant. Say you have to attend a meeting for your boss and she says, "Write up the notes." Believe me you will listen differently and remember! Why do we listen better for someone else?
We want to minimize the noise in our lives that we sometimes tune out more than the offending sounds, we also cancel the important messages too. Right now, stop and listen to the sounds around you……….
My wife Sarah loves to talk to me during the telecast of a critical athletic contest (aren't they all "critical"?) Anyway, I attempt to listen over the play by play announcer, but my attention is divided and I am not sure what she said. Sarah always knows. She says, "WHAT DID I SAY?" I look up as if I heard. You know how this predictable and sad story goes……..
It is not just paying attention and being present. It is also about knowing what you are listening for. Thinking about the needs of others in your network and listening for opportunities for them. A close friend of mine says you should always practice the three foot networking rule–network and listen to anyone within three feet!
If you practice constructive over-hearing, you will connect with people you know and don't know around common interests and needs–it might surprise you. If you want the world to seem smaller and more accessible, then open up those orifices on the sides of your pretty head.
Thanks for reading and listening. John